The Truth About Boundaries
“An important thing to remember about boundaries is that they exist, and they will affect us, whether or not we communicate them.” (Boundaries, p. 103)
There’s no escaping boundaries in our lives. The choice we have is how well we incorporate healthy ones. If we don’t put in the boundaries that will help us and our relationships, then we will end up using inappropriate boundaries like manipulation and control.
The key to avoiding that is by being open and honest with ourselves and those around us. I’ve struggled with that for years. Because I hate confrontation I tend to hold things inside, putting up walls instead of boundaries and that never leads to a healthy relationship of any kind.
Once again, we gain amazing wisdom through God’s Word. Psalm 51:6 says, “Surely you desire truth in the inner parts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place.”
God is challenging us to communicate our boundaries openly. It’s not going to be easy, especially if like me, you’ve don’t it the wrong way your whole life. I’m ready for change, however, and am grateful for what I’m learning and will continue to learn about setting up healthy boundaries for my own life. Who’s with me?