“Just because we have not been taught these principles of life and relationships does not mean they will not rule. We need to know the principles God has woven into life and operate according to them.” (Boundaries, p. 86)
One powerful truth that I’m learning about boundaries is the power they have over our lives – with or without them. It makes sense that to have boundaries in place helps us to lead healthier and happier lives. What may not be as apparent is that to not have boundaries in place will still affect us because the laws behind those boundaries cannot be ignored. The reality of “cause and effect”, of the consequences to our behaviors will show up in our lives at some point.
Good boundaries lead to healthy relationships. Lack of boundaries lead to the breakdown and ultimately the demise of the relationships we have. We cannot ignore the reality and need for boundaries any more than we can ignore the existence and need for gravity. God has put these laws in place for our good and because He wants good things for us.
Life can get crazy. There are things all around us that battle for our time and attention. I want to encourage all of us to make the journey of setting healthy boundaries around our lives top priority. It will change everything. I’m learning that there’s a true sense of freedom in the boundaries I’m setting around my life. As I read “Boundaries” I’m learning a lot about myself. I’m understanding why it’s been hard for me to set boundaries in my life like saying “no” to things and by speaking up in situations that I would rather avoid. It’s really important to let God reveal these things about us to our hearts so that we can be healed and empowered to become boundary builders.
We need to look at our choices today as seeds we are planting for the harvest of what our tomorrows will look like because the Bible says: “You reap whatever you sow.” (Galatians 6:7-8)